Hi, I have been with my ex for 2 years and it was kind of a long distance relationship. He often tried to make me stay but I was afraid because I had my life somewhere else. There was a job opportunity for me to be in the same city as him but I waited too long so I did not get it. Although I am in the same city as him now, he feels that I sabotaged our relationship, that I was unfair to him and that he does not want to be with me anymore. He said that he has put his life on hold for 2 years and that he doesn't know if it would be a good idea for us to be together; that this would be unfair to him. I can tell that he still really loves me but he seems to have made up his mind and doesn't want to go back with me. I feel like he resents me. I do not know what to do. I might have found a solution to stay where he is so it kills me because I know I will not be able to stay here knowing that we are not together anymore. He said that to him me staying doesn't matter anymore and he doesn't care what I do. I asked him what can I do for him to forgive me and he said nothing, that he doesn't want to and that therefore there is nothing that I can do. Do you think he will come back? What can I do to show him that I am really committed and sorry for what I've done? Should I just givehim space and leave him alone?


Maybe I am misunderstanding...but I don't see, from what you have written, that you did anything to deserve him dumping you? if it is because you delayed moving to where he is well then all I can say is you are well rid of him as that is no reason to end a relationship! and makes me think it did not mean much to him in the first place.

It honestly sounds to me like he has moved on and I think you should do the same.

If you really want to show him youre committed and really do love him, i would tell him. Listen to youre heart. If it is meant to be, you guys will work out. If he says no or doesnt come back, then it never was. I hope this helps, stay strong!