I've just moved back to the city where I was born and raised, and had two of the most wonderful friends a person could ever ask for. My job in the other city was dangerous, and left me often upset. My friends urged me to come back, but I hardly ever saw them. I wrote them a letter which may have sounded suicidal, and my friends say they won't talk to me until I'm healthy. I was a bit mean to them in subsequant emails, but I apologizd several times for this. I was in a bad funk, and felt like they were ganging up on me. They know I'm on meds, and see a shrink, but that is not enough for them. I feel so alone here, and I have no other friends and no job- plus I am very shy. I do have my family, but I want my friends back too. What should I do? Give up, or keep begging? We've been best buds for nearly 20 years, with hardly an issue.


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Could you write them new emails, and explain to them that you are trying, and that you are in therapy and you are lonely?

If it doesnt change them, you may still have to give it more time until it does.

I am sorry to hear that--but perhaps you can try and make some new friends while you are waiting for the old ones?

Best,

Clyde





Thank you for responding, Clyde!

I tried telling them, but they no longer respond to my email regulary. They know I am too shy to make friends, and they think they're holding me back. I guess I'll just do what you said and wait it out.

Thanks again,

Melyn





I would agree with writing them a new email explaining that you weren't well and take responsibility only for what you've done wrong. If that doesn't work then just let it rest and try to make new connections. I also think if they're your good friends, they should be offering you more support than what they've shown. Good friends should be there for each other even in th bad times. Best of luck,

Bella





Thanks to you, too Bella.

They are both busy with their own lives, and think I should end it. It has been a few weeks now. They have gone through some rough times, but no matter what-I was ALWAYS there for them. I don't know why they think shutting me off is an appropriate strategy when I've just made so many changes in my life. They both wished my sister a happy birthday via FB, and I can see that they're inviting other friends over for get-togethers. I don't think I can take the hurt anymore... Thanks for helping me come to a decision.

Melyn





Best wishes no matter what you decide.

Best,

Clyde