I think I am afraid of myself. Seeing my reflection creates a fear response. Touching my own skin on anything but my arms, hands or face scares me. Looking at myself naked scares me. I am also afraid of hurting my fiancee... What can I do????


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Hi

when you say you are afraid of hurting your fiance...do you mean emotionally? or are you concerned you may physically hurt him?

can you think of anything that may have triggered this reaction to yourself? or have you always felt this way?





It could definitely be a phobia or a personality issue of some kind (bdd or some other kind).

Have you gotten this checked out by a doctor?

What do you mean about hurting your fiance?

Best,

Clyde





I am wondering when this began to be a problem. Have you been sexually abused in your past? I feel I understand what you mean about hurting your fiance' in that it would be devastating to get married and then say "I don't want you to touch me" and that you are afraid to hurt them emotionally. Is that correct? If you can trace this back to when it first began to be a problem and figure out what it is that you are thinking about your body when it starts to bother you, you might understand why you are so afraid. Make sure that you are not taking on something someone else has said to you in the way of criticsm and beginning to own it. You were made uniquely, not like anyone else, and you must learn to accept yourself as you are created, whether tall, short, with this characteristic or that one.





Could you clarify what you mean when you say "you're afraid of hurting your fiance". Are you afraid of emotionally hurting him by you having this problem or are you afraid of physically hurting him?? How long have you felt this way??





Hi Tiger, several of the concerns you express sound like several disorders, such as obsessive-compulsive, body dysmorphic, etc. If you would like to chat more, let me know, here, you might help others, or at my personal email, albertchemist@yahoo.com

Cheers